Say the word “prenup” at a dinner party and watch the reactions. Someone will say it’s only for the rich. Someone will call it unromantic — planning the divorce before the wedding. Someone will insist they don’t hold up in court anyway.
After nearly three decades practicing family law in South Florida, I can tell you: almost everything people believe about prenuptial agreements is outdated, secondhand, or just wrong. That misunderstanding has a real cost: the couples who’d benefit most are often the ones talked out of it by myths.
So let’s clear them up, one by one. (The usual caveat: this is general information, not legal advice.)
Myth 1: “Prenups are only for wealthy people”
This one made a little sense forty years ago. It doesn’t now.
Modern couples marry later and arrive with more history: a business, a house with equity, retirement accounts — and, just as often, student loans and credit card debt. A prenuptial agreement isn’t only about protecting a fortune. It’s about clarity on questions like:
- If one of us owns a business, does the other become entangled in it — or entitled to part of it?
- Who’s responsible for the debt each of us brings in?
- What happens to the house I bought before we met?
- How do we protect children from a prior marriage?
That last one matters enormously in second marriages, where a prenup works alongside your estate plan to protect children from a first marriage.
If either of you owns anything, owes anything, or has children, you have prenup-relevant questions. Wealth is beside the point.
Myth 2: “Asking for a prenup means you expect the marriage to fail”
Here’s the reframe I offer couples: a prenup is not a plan to divorce. It’s an agreement about fairness, made at the moment in your relationship when you like each other most.
Every married couple already has a “prenup” — it’s the default rulebook written by the Florida Legislature and applied by judges who’ve never met you. Declining to write your own agreement doesn’t mean you have no agreement. It means you’ve accepted the state’s version, sight unseen.
And the process itself is often good for couples. Building one requires full financial disclosure — everything on the table. Couples routinely tell me the conversations were the first truly candid money discussions they’d ever had. Financial surprises are a leading source of marital conflict; a prenup front-loads that honesty before the wedding instead of letting it detonate in year four.
“In my experience, the prenup conversation doesn’t damage strong couples — it reveals them. The ones who can talk openly about money, expectations, and fairness before the wedding are the ones I rarely see again professionally.” — Joseph Zager, Esq., Founder, ZAGERLAW, P.A.
Myth 3: “Prenups don’t hold up in court anyway”
Properly done, prenups are regularly enforced — Florida has adopted the Uniform Premarital Agreement Act, which sets clear ground rules for validity.
The horror stories you’ve heard — agreements thrown out, fortunes lost — almost always trace back to preventable mistakes: an agreement signed days before the wedding under obvious pressure, hidden assets and incomplete disclosure, terms so one-sided they shock the conscience, or one party having no opportunity to consult their own lawyer.
Prenups don’t fail because they’re flimsy; they fail because they were done badly. Full disclosure, adequate time, independent counsel for each party, and fundamentally fair terms — that’s the recipe for an agreement that holds.
One boundary worth knowing: a prenup can address property and spousal support, but it cannot lock in child support or custody — those always remain subject to the child’s best interests, no matter what any document says.
Myth 4: “A prenup is something one side imposes on the other”
This is the myth I most enjoy correcting, because the modern practice looks nothing like the movie version — one lawyer, one thick document, one stunned fiancé.
The best prenuptial agreements today are *negotiated collaboratively*, and many couples build them through mediation. Instead of two lawyers trading drafts like adversaries, the couple sits down with a neutral mediator, talks through their finances and their intentions, and shapes terms together — each side still getting independent legal review before signing. As a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, I can tell you the difference in tone is night and day. Mediation turns the prenup from something one person “asks for” into something two people build.
There’s a bonus that outlasts the wedding: couples who practice resolving one sensitive negotiation together carry that skill into the marriage. And if the relationship someday ends, a well-drafted agreement shrinks what there is to fight about — making a mediated, out-of-court resolution far more likely than a courtroom battle.
Myth 5: “It’s too late for us — we’re already married”
Not too late. Florida recognizes postnuptial agreements — the same essential tool, entered after the wedding. Couples use them when circumstances change: a business takes off, an inheritance arrives, one spouse steps back from a career to raise children. The validity requirements are similar, and honesty and fairness matter just as much.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are prenups enforceable in Florida?
Yes — Florida courts regularly enforce prenuptial agreements that meet the legal requirements: voluntary signing, full and fair financial disclosure, and terms that aren’t the product of fraud, duress, or overreaching. Agreements fail when those boxes weren’t checked — independent counsel and adequate time are the safeguards.
What can a prenup not include?
A prenuptial agreement cannot predetermine child support or child custody — Florida courts decide those based on the child’s best interests when the question actually arises. Terms that attempt to regulate personal behavior, or that are wildly one-sided, also put an agreement at risk.
Can you do a prenup through mediation?
Yes, and it’s an increasingly popular approach. A neutral mediator helps the couple discuss finances and shape terms together, with each person having their own attorney review the final agreement. It tends to be less adversarial, less expensive, and better for the relationship than trading drafts through opposing counsel.
How long before the wedding should you sign a prenup?
Earlier is better — start the conversation months ahead, not weeks. An agreement signed on the courthouse steps invites a later claim that it was signed under pressure. Give both parties time for disclosure, reflection, and independent legal advice.
Start the conversation early — and start it together
A prenuptial agreement, done right, is one of the more honest things two people can build together. If you’re engaged, recently married, or simply curious about your options, we’re glad to walk you through it — including whether a mediated approach fits you.
**Schedule your free consultation with ZAGERLAW, P.A. or call 954-888-8170**. Serving Fort Lauderdale, Broward, and Palm Beach.
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